Sitting on the bonnet of a car
I was sitting in my car the other day on the phone to a potential client and alongside me drew up a very nice Maserati. If you’re like me, then actually any Maserati is more than nice. Out of it stepped a chap who was, I will admit, rather easy on the eye. As I watched him lock the car and stride away, I was reminded of an apparently true story a good friend told me some years back. A friend of hers – stay with me here – was keen to meet the owner of a sports car she regularly saw zipping around her part of town as said owner appeared single and not without some income or wealth. These being her two main husband criteria, she hatched a plan to ensnare this unknowing young man. Her solution was to find where he parked it and then sit waiting on the bonnet until he returned to it at the end of the day. And would you believe it, it worked. They chatted, he admired her character, chutzpah and possibly an additional quality or two, and they dated. Where it led to, I never did hear. But I still have a rosy picture of never ending bliss because obviously, life is like that.
Seeing the Maserati made me consider that perhaps I too could help myself not only to a new boyfriend but also an easy and irresponsible way of avoiding the need to chase new clients. I have always worked and – even through maternity and motherhood – never relied on anyone else to look after me. Perhaps it was time now to take a break from this and for once, pass the earning baton to another person. Let’s face it, monetising ideas right can be a slog.
I finished the phone call and stepped out of the car. The fresh air gave me the boost I needed to come to my senses. If finding new clients was indeed challenging, and it was, why not look at the problem differently? I’m forever saying to people that if they keep doing the same thing, they’ll simply carry on getting the same results. And here I was doing just that: doing the same thing and wondering why nothing was changing.
I’m a big believer in doing what you’re passionate about. I truly believe that if you follow your dream, it will work out for you. Get clear on your passion, roll around in the possibility of how good it would be to have or follow that passion all the time, luxuriate in what it would feel like, be like, sound like, and what other people would be saying to you and about you. And then relax and let the world respond. Whenever I’ve actually followed my own advice, I’ve always come through with a great new path in life.
But when following our passion doesn’t perhaps yield immediate results, our head can get in the way and sabotage the dream. Self talk takes the form of: ‘that won’t work’, or ‘that won’t make money’, or ‘people will laugh at you’, or ‘you don’t have the skills’. Our heads are great at getting in the way of our ability to follow our gut. And when we stop following our gut, it’s easy to lose the connection with our passion. Getting too much into our heads runs the risk of thinking within the same tramlines we’ve always thought. So we stick to what we know with the result that change becomes more challenging.
So, rather than keep on trying to chase the same kinds of clients, I’m going to re-connect with my passion. I’m going to spend some quality thinking time reaffirming what gets me out of the bed in the morning and really lights my fire. I’m going to imagine what it looks like when I’m fulfilling that passion all my time. I’m not going to lose sight of those possibilities. Wish me luck. You never know, it might be driving my own Maserati in a few years’ time.